for me it would be attitude, if the girl was stucky up and holier than thou and thought she was better than everyone else and a snob, or if we were related (sorry had to throw that in there LOL)

 

iwill turn down pussy for some beer

 

My sister is a skinny little pretty thing, or at least until she takes off her make-up. Multiple boyfriends of hers have asked me how to make her more fun in bed...told me she just "lays there while i do the work" ...i told em put on some porn for her! dunno if it worked, dont care really to know. No way i could just lay there during sex, BORING!

epitomy of the reason I posted this question....I think for most men pussy would win.

Anyway, he and I are finished. He had his last drink tonight...make that 3/4 of a gallon of whiskey, which made him think he could fix stuff, which lead him to our pool stairs, and then to try out and see if he really "fixed" them, leading to a broken and dislocated ankle. I have no insurance yet. So he will be paying for this on his own. Before tonight I had all intentions of sending him to treatment to see what kind of man he would be sober... at this point he will be lucky if I stay til the end of the month. I am packed and looking for a place! Thanks for all those who gave advice, it was fun to try while it lasted

 

Being male, and having been through periods where I didn't 'get any' for months and sometimes a year or more... I do have advice. I see you're not sticking with this guy, and I don't pretend to believe it's your fault alone or his fault alone... but I do have advice.

Seriously, don't screw the guy before you get married. If you gave and he took it freely before you got married, married is just an emotional handcuff. Seriously.

It's not about turning down pussy. If that's all he wanted, yours is good enough, I'm absolutely sure. If pussy is mere entertainment, then yours will NEVER be enough, because entertainment can't be the same show every night.

Relationships are built on a certain sense of give and take and mutual agreement. At this moment, your words say that you're trying to appeal to his inherent sex drive to get sex from him. As others have said, that's not the only way his urge to get off can be met. Or, maybe he doesn't have any. As one who's been married to one person for well more than 20 years, it's not going to be any surprise to hear that a man's turning a hot woman down.

But there has to be a reason. Either he's into someone else... something else... Or he's resenting something big time. My wife got busy in her career and at the same time had physical issues that made sex very difficult. Then had to have a hysterectomy at a young age, when our kids were still small and young.

Speaking as a man, who doesn't tend to vocalize the negatives, I never said a word about all those things that irritated, annoyed, or angered me, and it took not very long for those to end up causing a massive load of resentment. And she didn't miss or want the sex for a few years. And now, it's been a very long and difficult road, and we're not out of the woods. She doesn't know me, really. Not even after all these years. She stopped trying to once the kids and career came along, and now that the kids are adults, she's utterly baffled at why and what.

And yeah... Because of those, I spent years preferring the right hand to her. It's hard to be intimate and aroused by someone you resent. Almost impossible, really. And yes, she thought I was having an affair ( absurd, if you know me), and somehow, we got a notice from the cable company that someone was pirating porn (wasn't me...??? I'm still lost on that...I've never done that...), and other stuff. So, she was mad at me, frustrated at no sex, and her actions for all of it just drove me farther away from any chance of it.

I can't tell you the entire means back, it's not fitting, and it's not done anyway. But I can tell you that if you want to not experience this again, it's going to take some working at it. And by that, I don't mean better sexual skills, but better relationship skills.. on your part and his part, whoever "his" may turn out to be. I do get the giving up on an alcoholic, though it seems to me perhaps you should try, at least, to salvage your life. You invested years already... Is it that big of a risk to make an effort?

I wish you the best...

 

Maybe it's not all his fault...

Interesting thread. I took the time to read it all, because I was in a position a few years ago where I ended up turning down sex for a variety of reasons. But since you don't think that anyone should ask you about your business when they disagree with you, I'll not give any specifics about my own circumstances at the time. But, generally, have you considered:

• have you pushed him away?
• do you avoid connection outside of sex? mentally or emotionally?
• do you support him (non-financially)?
• do you encourage him to do things that he enjoys without you?
• has your own desire to cheat made you more jealous of him than he deserves?
• was there a reason for taking a trip to a different destination? had you already denied him the chance of doing something he wanted to (including possible employment)?
• if he drank when you met, did you drink too?
• have you got any debilitating mental/emotional/physical issues that he wants to help you with, but you deny him access?

The fundamental aspect for my loss of interest in a previous partner was the fact that I genuinely cared about her. It wasn't just a 'see-what-happens' deal, or dating practice. I cared, and she was going downhill without wanting to do anything about it. Even when she admitted her problems, she turned her back on them.

And I agree with another few of the guys on here. Cheating is cheating. I notice you stress Mexico, but haven't mentioned him being unfaithful to you. So why cheat on him? It's YOUR issue, not his.

Why would I turn down pussy? If the person offering was emotionally damaged, I'd refuse. If there was so much worry about her, no trust, or a lack of connection, desire would die.

On a one-off basis? I'd never turn it down (after mutual flirting) - if you take someone up the garden path, it's only fair to open the door

 

your more of a dog person!

 

1- she is fat
2- she is not shaved
3- I have fucked her before and she is shit in bed


but if you have been married for a while, most likely you gained weight, he is bored with you and is fucking elsewhere.

 

Well, let me see:

1. You don't like the person who owns that pussy;
2. You are afraid that that person might be ill;
3. The woman is so drunk, that you prefer to wait a few hours, until you know that she knows what she's doing;
4. You have to go to work (or a business meeting) and you cannot afford to be late;
5. You are too drunk to perform - but you can always lay on your back and let her try to "convince" your dick to get hard and perform (this is how a woman has become pregnant with me and has had to have an illegal abortion!)...
I'm sure the list is still open!...

 

The only time I turned down pussy was when I was really hungry. Didn't have the energy to do anything and I felt like I was about to pass out so I chose food over pussy. However, I did make it up later that night.

 

Maybe he is getting pussy elsewhere.

 

There are times that I turn it down from my SO. Sometimes I am just way to tired etc. My suggestion or at least what never fails to turn me on is take control of the situation don't ask... MY SO comes out of the bathroom in stockings and nothing else I go from not so interested to raging hard on in like 10 seconds..

 

Maybe it's the "numerous dudes" thing

 

smell ,meat curtain ,r since ur married maybe he had pussy scent of another n didnt want get busted!

 

aint turn down no cat

 

Crazy Bitches

Any pussy putting off a nut job vibe I run from, at times have thrown friends under that bus to avoid the drama.

 

Only if it stinks!

 

haha yes the smell,,,, sometimes

 

I agree with you

It annoys me when people hear the words drugs and immediately think anyone who takes any drug is a drop-kick junky who hasn't done anything with their life... And people who say that MDMA is a "life wrecking drug" are Absolute dipshits... Real MDMA ( not shitty street pills sold as ecstacy but are actually just speed) has the power to cure depression... It really is a wonder drug, but the majority of the public are so close-minded that they just shun anybody who has touched the stuff...

 

I love sucking my wifes juicy pussy after being well fucked.

 

nasty pussy

too much hair it stinks pussy lips hang pussy too loose its ugly looking i could go on